Facing your Fears – and moving on
No matter what we say, we all have something we’re afraid of.
Heights, spiders, water, carrots, death.
Sometimes they may sound completely ridiculous to others, but to us – the fear is there and it is oh so very real.
What we do with that fear, or that feeling, and how we move past it (or not) is up to us.
For smaller things, maybe its something you don’t have to face. You can continue through life never having to go for a swim or climb a ladder.
For things like spiders – it may be something that every once in a while you come face to face with. An us or them situation.
The spider is in your house, and you’re alone. Is it the spiders house now? Or do you throw a shoe and hope your aim is on point? (Personally I like to extend the vacuum as long as possible and suck them up. I then leave the vacuum running for a while to ensure that eight legged intruder is as far away as possible from me.)
Sometimes fear isn’t something that you’re born with but a more learned behaviour. It can come from an accident or incident. Or seeing someone else go through something.
There are countless car accidents a day, maybe you’ve had one. Of course no one wants to get into a car accident, and on some level its most likely something we’re all afraid of or fear – but does that stop us from getting into the car?
For some people – maybe the fear is so intense that they don’t go in cars anymore.
For most, we shelf our fear, and bring risk into consideration.
Is there a risk? (There is basically risk involved with everything we do starting with getting out of bed in the morning)
What is the likelihood of something actually happening – what are the odds.
And are we feeling lucky?
Sometimes the reward out weighs the risk and that also plays a role.
Or sometimes the fear is so huge that it is actually consuming. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally.
Until you’ve experienced an incident that evoked a fear – its hard to qualify how real these feelings are and how much they truly affect a person.
While a lot of us most likely make light of things like spiders and such – fears like this most likely aren’t as debilitating as a fear brought on by a bad experience or accident.
When we have these feelings where we feel like facing our fears head on isn’t an option, we need to develop ways to either avoid them entirely, or perhaps take small steps in over coming them.
For something such as a fear of heights – maybe if every day you went one further rung up the ladder until you reached the top. Maybe this is how you surpass your fear.
For others, its certainly not as easy.
In the security industry – fear is almost part of the job. Everyone goes to work hoping and expecting a relatively quiet day. Or at least a routine day with minimal confrontations. However in this industry we have grown to learn that there is no routine. There is no typical day. We need to expect the unexpected.
Constantly keeping on our toes and keeping an eye out for the things that we may fear most.
Maybe there are some fears we never outgrow.
Maybe we learn to cope to an extent.
Maybe we adapt and hide how we truly feel.
Whatever it is we decide to do at the end of the day, we have to be right with our decisions. Knowing that we kept safe and made it through another day.
By taking small steps, or no steps. The choice is up to us.
Guest Blogger Rayna Davies
Rayna Davies is a graduate and practitioner of Business Management. She has developed an expertise in blogging, covering subjects like travel, world events and security. Having grown up with a father who has developed an expertise in Physical Security and Executive Protection in the RCMP and two major corporations, she has personally observed and experienced many security details. These experiences have included personally meeting HM Queen Elizabeth, Prime Minister Jean Chretien and many celebrities. She presently assists Sentinel Security in Executive Protection workshops and guest blogging and also assists Gloprosec Preventative Services in Intelligence gathering and Business Administration. Her passions include World travel, having visited every continent.