Cultivating Relationships – The Everlasting Honeymoon
Across a crowded room – you lock eyes. Without having ever met, or ever spoken, you have that feeling. This could be the one.
The timing, mood, feeling – everything feels right.
You look sharp, and so do they.
You take a few deep breaths to build your confidence before making your way to them.
You boldly step forward and introduce yourself, all while watching you future dance before you.
Today begins day one of your new found relationship. Every day after today you wake up with a new purpose and intent. Every swipe of your hair brush, every button on your shirt is new meaning.
The sun rises with your pride and sets on accomplishments for the day. Every day brighter than the last.
You ensure that with everything you do, the utmost top tier of effort, respect, and pride shows. Showing off your worth and proving yourself invaluable.
You feel needed – just as you need them.
Together you blossom and grow in these first few months where you’re learning all of the intimate details of one another.
After a time, you feel like you’ve reached a place where there is no turning back. You move forward in your level of commitment, still waking up each morning continuing to happily prove your worth.
The world watches as you grow, learn, achieve, and blossom into this new version of you. A happy, successful, rich with life version of you.
Confidence exhudes in your personality and people want what you have.
You’ve built a solid relationship made on the foundation of trust, hard work, and success. A give and take partnership where you are working together to build the other up.
This could be true love.
As things progress and your lives become more permanently embedded and intertwined with another, as with any relationship, we can get complacent.
Complacency typically happens after the honeymoon period. When the highest highs of your relatively newfound relationship are achieved and celebrated. There are often more highs to follow, but for a time, it feels like the the main goals have been reached.
While this relationship we speak of would more commonly be thought of as a relationship and marriage of two people, it can very well be a relationship between an individual and their job or career.
We all start a career with that same awkward trepidation that most high school relationships are built off of.
Nervous and shaky beginnings built on that usually brief and awkward first interview.
Both the workplace and the individual begin those first days showing off to each other. Each trying to pridefully show their skills, while almost silently yelling ‘look what I can do’ to ensure that the other has made a good decision.
Confidence and trust within each other builds past that probation period and to a point where both become comfortable with one another.
The individual doesn’t feel the constant need to fight that invisible battle of showing off their new tricks, and the job is now letting on that we do all have bad days.
Both are learning the good and the bad from one another and sometimes I’m sure, struggling to keep the flame alight.
In any job or career that we stay in long term, there can always be that negative side. The side where you know that sometimes things aren’t always perfect, or ideal.
The trick is, that since you’ve been there long enough, you know that the good days out number the bad, and most importantly – the grass is not always greener on the other side.
To cultivate and maintain a healthy and prosperous relationship, and keep things on the brighter side – efforts will always need to be made.
While you may not be constantly proving your worth to make it through the door anymore, you do need to ensure that you still show pride in yourself and what you do.
The people you work with may change, the location may change, even you can possibly change. But this is a relationship where the main focus and intent of the job will ever remain the same.
If you find yourself remembering that at the end of the day you’re doing a job you love, you’ll never leave that honeymoon period.
Lots of honeymoon’s have rainy days, but that doesn’t decrease their worth.
Keep your eye on the bottom line, remember that first glance that had you hooked from day one, and live every day like its the best day of your honeymoon.
Guest Blogger Rayna Davies
Rayna Davies is a graduate and practitioner of Business Management. She has developed an expertise in blogging, covering subjects like travel, world events and security. Having grown up with a father who has developed an expertise in Physical Security and Executive Protection in the RCMP and two major corporations, she has personally observed and experienced many security details. These experiences have included personally meeting HM Queen Elizabeth, Prime Minister Jean Chretien and many celebrities. She presently assists Sentinel Security in Executive Protection workshops and guest blogging and also assists Gloprosec Preventative Services in Intelligence gathering and Business Administration. Her passions include World travel, having visited every continent.