We were raised to be good and kind people.
To help others and never treat people any other way then the way we want to be treated.
For some people – they’ve made it a career to continue to help others. Whether it be sorting through their issues or helping others to see their full potential.
For others it seems they may have lost sight of this common goal. Priorities and life shifted, changed, got in the way. Helping others became a hindrance to getting ahead and looking after priority number one – themselves.
Looking after ourselves is definitely important and not something to take lightly. We are important and need looking after just as much as anyone else, and no one knows our needs better then ourselves.
However there is still something fulfilling about helping others. And even beyond that, kindness knows no boundaries and sometimes helping others is just the right thing to do.
But what do we do when by either a choice of career or circumstance faces us with the seemingly impossible task of helping someone that we don’t want to help?
In security, the main goal of the job is to help people. The fine print might as well be ‘whether you like it or not’
In marriage most vows clearly state – in sickness and in health.
At some point in our life, we may be faced with what can feel like a burden of helping someone – even if we don’t want too.
When it comes down to a career choice to help people, there may be days when you just don’t have it in you and take a break, or take a step back from the front lines. Allowing or forcing others to take the brunt of the social responsibility of being kind and helping others. Knowing that some days they too will need a break and we will step up.
While this may not be the best mind set, we all have our days when we can barely help ourselves let alone others, so stepping aside to let the stronger people shine, knowing that the next time it will be you can sometimes make the task a lot easier.
Other times we just suck it up and help anyway, knowing that at the end of the shift its over and we can go back to looking after the real number one – or at least shifting the focus of care onto loved ones – family and friends, instead of strangers.
When it comes to having to help and care for family, the options can seem a lot less. Living with people that need help either mentally or physically can be a daunting task and it can quite literally consume you.
There can be days when you’re resentful and wonder if its all even worth it.
Life choices can definitely be questioned and any motivating factors are heavily scrutinized.
Helping those that we love, there isn’t always a break at the end of the day. With kids, partners, family, it can be constant and it can be exhausting.
The fear of losing yourself to the constant need to help others is real.
Time for yourself and space for yourself can sometimes be sparse. And anytime you think you may be able to pull away for some you time, you find yourself being sucked back in.
Establishing some sort of routine where at the end of the day there was at least five minutes when you weren’t forgotten. Whether it be to read a chapter in a book, work out, meditate, or just step outside to clear your head. As small as that amount of time may be, its important.
On the days where those minutes seem futile and non existent – those are probably the days we need the space the most.
And yet, for love or circumstance we push through. We dig deep and keep caring. Keep moving for the sake of others.
We hold tight to that glimmer of hope, the light at the end of the tunnel that makes it all worth it.
Whether that light is for children that may one day look after us when we’re old, or for parents who once looked after us. Maybe its a friend going through a rough time that would drop anything to help us, or someone that is mentally or physically unable to do the things they need to do to get through the day alone. Perhaps its even just a stranger that we happened across in our day, or its part of our job.
Caring for others is physical. Its mental. Its emotional. Its all of the things.
Whether or not the person being cared for is suffering from something mental, or physical, the emotions and the gauntlet that those caring for them go through will still be a combination of all of the things.
People that need to be cared for need support.
People that support people need support.
We all need support.
So if we’re going to dig deep to help others and those that can’t help themselves, the best thing we can do is be kind – always. Knowing that those that we are helping need us, and that there are others that will care for us. If we are going to dig deep anyway, than dig for kindness, and positivity. They won’t make it all better, but they’ll help. And we could all use a little help some days.
Guest Blogger Rayna Davies
Rayna Davies is a graduate and practitioner of Business Management. She has developed an expertise in blogging, covering subjects like travel, world events and security. Having grown up with a father who has developed an expertise in Physical Security and Executive Protection in the RCMP and two major corporations, she has personally observed and experienced many security details. These experiences have included personally meeting HM Queen Elizabeth, Prime Minister Jean Chretien and many celebrities. She presently assists Sentinel Security in Executive Protection workshops and guest blogging and also assists Gloprosec Preventative Services in Intelligence gathering and Business Administration. Her passions include World travel, having visited every continent.