Lately in the news, past events in people’s lives are making a comeback.
Whether these past events were positive, negative, or whatever the intentions were, sometimes the past doesn’t stay in the past.
In life, we’re raised and taught to make good and smart choices. We’re raised to be respectful of others and to be mindful of our actions.
We’re very much in an age where a lot of our actions, are immortalized in an online universe that essentially catalogues our entire lives from birth, to first steps, to graduation, to death.
Every exciting and momentous occasion is broadcast throughout the social media universe so that all of your friends and family near and far can take part as if they were there too.
In some ways – this is a great tool to utilize to keep in touch with others, and virtually scrapbook your life.
In other ways, all of those moments that were ‘funny at the time’, half jokes, or done with the best intentions, if taken into the wrong context, or viewed by the wrong crowd, these light hearted moments can be quick to turn against us.
One can’t expect to live their life in a bubble – constantly ensuring that each step you take will be positively viewed and appraised by every single person with a device and a wifi connection.
There will always be at least two different takes on a story, and you’ll never please everyone. So living your life to ensure your own happiness and sanity should be a priority over those heckling in a forum.
What a child or student does in the early years of their life, does not necessarily indicate how the rest of their life will play out.
Humans are just that – Human. We make mistakes, we learn, and we grow.
We may not always make the best decisions or the right choice, but every choice we make takes us one step further down our life path.
Some mistakes are definitely bigger than others. Some choices are just that – a choice, and can’t be labeled as a mistake or anything else. But does this mean that a decision we made in a highly emotional state will now dictate the rest of our life?
In some cases yes. In some cases we may not have the emotional foundation to build from and learn and move past to grow further. In some cases we can be so stubbornly rooted to our decisions that because we refuse, we can’t move forward.
If a mistake is repetitively made, it is no longer a mistake.
In the event we can’t accept responsibility of our actions, learn from them and grow, our past very well can negatively impact our future and continue to do so as long as these poor decisions continue.
However people do have the capacity to accept responsibility and move on. Showing that their actions speak louder than words.
If someone steals a loaf of bread for their family in a time of need – it may have been wrong to do so, but does that make them a bad person?
Does this imply that the person is no longer trustworthy enough to be employable? If desperate times come up, they will most likely put their family first and go above and beyond to ensure food is on the table at any cost.
Or does this show that if you can make the person care enough about the job, they will go to the ends to ensure success at any cost. They will ensure the food is on their work family’s table as well.
There will always be two sides of the story, and there will always be supporters and haters.
Neither side will probably ever succeed in proving the other wrong as people are set in their ways and will stick to what they believe first and foremost is the right way. Even if at the heart of it all, we all have the same fundamental beliefs.
In security, we know full well that there are always at least two sides of the story and that often the resolution is to decompress a situation and usually separate the individuals.
While this doesn’t hold true for all aspects of life, there is a lot to be said for taking a walk in someone else shoes, and approaching subjects with a broadened mindset.
Forming an opinion is not always a bad thing, but ignoring that there may be more than just one opinion will never bring a resolution.
Guest Blogger Rayna Davies
Rayna Davies is a graduate and practitioner of Business Management. She has developed an expertise in blogging, covering subjects like travel, world events and security. Having grown up with a father who has developed an expertise in Physical Security and Executive Protection in the RCMP and two major corporations, she has personally observed and experienced many security details. These experiences have included personally meeting HM Queen Elizabeth, Prime Minister Jean Chretien and many celebrities. She presently assists Sentinel Security in Executive Protection workshops and guest blogging and also assists Gloprosec Preventative Services in Intelligence gathering and Business Administration. Her passions include World travel, having visited every continent.