Everyone has their limits, and when it comes to personal space and boundaries, these limits can widely vary.
Especially in the summer when the heat is on, these limits can be drastically reduced. Have someone in your space can be bad enough, but when you’re struggling in the heat on top of that, all the more space you may need.
Accidental brush ins or temporary space intruders are can be one thing. These moments are fleeting and tend to not happen as often. Knowing that something is temporary tends to alleviate part of the stress. Reminding yourself that this is very short term and being back in your comfort zone is imminent.
However there do seem to be some people that have a smaller ‘bubble’ then others. They have no boundaries and are seemingly happy to be right on top of someone else, intruding into another territory.
While this may be ok for a few, a lot of people can be struck with an overwhelming sense of anxiety and urgency to be removed from the situation. Backing up and walking away to regain ground only to have the space intruder bombard again.
While these seemingly boundless individuals may mean absolutely no harm, the need for space can be too great for some and a fear for personal security and safety may prevail.
While some may find it hard or even ridiculous to ask a supposedly harmless individual to take a few steps back, they may feel like they even have very few to no options in order to protect their sanity.
If an individual feels threatened – regardless of the nature of the threat or where its coming from, they should never feel the urge to keep silent.
Your well being matters – mentally, physically, emotionally. We are all people and we all deserve to be treated with the respect and dignity and humanity that we all so crave.
If you feel by any means threatened and there is security near by, sending a warning glance or asking for help should never feel like an inconvenience.
Security is not just there to protect against all of these wildly crazy scenarios we all dream up in our heads by being over indulged in today’s news.
Security is there for a purpose. To protect, peace of mind, and to keep everyone safe.
If someone is in your space and you feel that your safety or boundaries are being jeopardized, and any verbal or non verbal clues are being ignored – step up.
Ask for help.
Security will be more then happy to assess and assist.
If you feel like your boundaries are being tested and you’re in a situation or location where options are limited, sometimes talking to someone and letting them know how you feel so you have an extra set of eyes on the situation is help enough. Or perhaps they can direct you to a different location where you will feel safer.
There are always options. Whether your situation can be immediately resolved or you can remove yourself from it entirely – there are different ways to resolve boundaries and redefine the size of your bubble.
With personal space and boundaries often being a trigger or jumping off point into potentially bigger issues, rectifying things before they get out of hand will be better for everyone involved.
By speaking up and preventing a situation from potentially spiralling, you’re not only doing yourself a favour, but the people around you as well.
The mentality of keeping silent and being too big to ask for help needs to stop.
Silence never is and never was golden – communication and safety are and always will be paramount.
Guest Blogger Rayna Davies
Rayna Davies is a graduate and practitioner of Business Management. She has developed an expertise in blogging, covering subjects like travel, world events and security. Having grown up with a father who has developed an expertise in Physical Security and Executive Protection in the RCMP and two major corporations, she has personally observed and experienced many security details. These experiences have included personally meeting HM Queen Elizabeth, Prime Minister Jean Chretien and many celebrities. She presently assists Sentinel Security in Executive Protection workshops and guest blogging and also assists Gloprosec Preventative Services in Intelligence gathering and Business Administration. Her passions include World travel, having visited every continent.